Collaborative Divorce: Where the emphasis is on resolving differences and not identifying with them

In today’s political climate, the debate over almost all political issues is becoming more polarized, with each side intent on prevailing over the heretics on the other side.  The middle ground of reasoned compromise is rapidly disappearing.  The world of divorce law can be very similar. In the midst of the emotional turmoil of a couple separating, the polarization of positions is predictable, but not inevitable.  Collaborative divorce offers a different approach. Instead of focusing on the issues of fault, abandonment and retribution, the focus is on problem-solving and moving on to the next stage of a couple’s relationship.  Working through this change in a married couples’ relationship is not without hurt and pain.  With a collaborative divorce, the emotional wounds of the marital breakup are not allowed to fester in a legal fight which will become increasingly more emotionally and financially draining.  One goal of collaborative law is to make the best of a very bad situation.  Instead of becoming mired down in the adversarial court process which has a unique way of magnifying differences, the parties, together with the help of attorneys experienced in collaborative law, work towards resolving these differences.